TEMPTATION AT YOUR FINGERTIPS!!!

3 Reasons Spouses Commit FACEBOOK Affairs

Facebook is a very common means of communication for nearly everyone today. It is a great way to keep in contact with family, friends, old friends, networking for work and many other things.

Facebook can become a problem in marriages though; according to Jada Collins, Registered Mental Health Counselor, some therapists believe that Facebook is a ‘no-no’ for married couples. Before a husband and wife decide to have a Facebook, they should lay some ground rules.
     Affairs used to consist of office flings, crushing on your neighbor, picking up on people at the bar, etc but now it is right at our finger tips. Accepting the wrong person as a friend on Facebook, feeling a spark when you see your old boyfriend/girlfriend on there, it opens up doors to infidelity that are new.  So is Faceboook to blame for the rise in extramarital affairs? No no no, it is not to blame, the individual themselves are to blame according to Collins. The individual themselves allow temptation to come onto their Facebook. If you have to think whether or not to accept someone as a friend, simply don’t do it. In my marriage, if an ex tries to friend me, I deny them because I don’t want the drama in my marriage and I don’t want to hurt my husbands feelings. It isn’t worth it.

Why is it that spouses commit Facebook Affairs; here is what Jada Collins stated:

1. Easy Access
2. Lack of Boundaries
3. Refusal to take responsibility

If you and your spouse decide it is okay to get Facebook accounts, here are some times from Collins on how to safeguard it:

Tips to Safeguard your marriage:

1. Discuss expectations and concerns with your spouse
2. Create social networking boundaries
3. Spouses need to exchange user names and passwords. (No phony accounts.. This applies to
         email accounts as well).
4. Do not use social networking as a replacement for interaction with your partner
5. Communicate openly as concerns arise(No matter how insignificant a concern may be, it can
        rapidly turn into a big issue and source of contention so it is best to adequately and honestly
        address it).
6. Choose friends wisely; be careful of adding provocative and flirtation acquaintances, or old
        flames(guys want to recapture their youth and we all know what young guys want- relive their
        "conquests".  Women will see what the guy wants them to see and will want what they passed
         up- afterall the guy will look like a prince through Facebook).
"A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush".  Guarantee that most spouses are far better than an old flame because you know exactly what you have in your spouse and that "the person the old flame is showing you" is in reality NOT who they are.