"NONE OF THE ABOVE"

I know who I plan to vote for and fully intend to so so because it is my right, duty and privilege just as it is with every American citizen. However, the following Facebook post is an example of the mentality and "faulty" thinking of the individual that has been discussed and is evidence of the damage in brain development done due to the "first use principle". It's individuals such as this that are the reason our country has come to the place it is.... The logic is non-existent, it starts with the mention of alcohol(surprise), proceeds to show contempt of successful individuals and in a seriously flawed attempt to minimize his own background suggests that an ex-con(criminal) would make better decisions for the citizens of this country in the highest or second highest office in the USA.

"Everything in life should be productive. Not true the founders of this country all distilled liquor and sold it, well that was productive in filling their pockets. The Kennedys brought it in during the time of probation. No one in this country has not found fortune without the help of what is in demand, as people will always demand a break from reality. People want to let go of the day to day mundane life that most all of us live. Weather it is to become a holy roller or a drunk or just not spend money on anything to save for something that means something to them. There are those of us that will never change. Change is the hardest thing a person will ever be able to do. Why would you want to stop being happy to try something that is not a sure thing. That is what hinders change. The United States incarnates more people than any other country on earth. In order to get to the top you must have never faced a personal issue. You must have never had to put one knee to the ground and say I cannot take it. You must have never did anything wrong. Do you really know who you are voting for? One way or other both should never hold office. Why you ask. They are both liars. They have never had a problem in their life; they have never done anything wrong. You cannot trust them and should never expect them to do anything in your favor if it does not do something for them in their favor. Put a single father in office or a single mother. Put a convict in office. But do not put some rich bastard that has no idea as to what life is about. A single parent knows how to stretch a dollar and say no that would be nice to have but it is not wise to spend money that way. Make the vice president a convict. They are blunt they are rude and do not believe in giving away anything. The current government owns all of the oil rights that are another problem. A convict would say stop trying to steal my shit motherfucker or I am going to put a cap in your ass. A convict would say to the world hey this is my place this is my house I do not go into yours and try to fuck with anything and if you come into mine, I do not give a fuck who you call god you are going to meet them in a minute if you do. Now let’s bounce back to health care. The person in charge of that should be or have been at one time unemployed and or homeless. Someone that knows what it is like to need to be fixed but afraid to ask for help since they have noting and will not get proper treatment and be stuck with a bill that no one can afford to pay. They would change that shit quick. So there you have it the budget will get fixed we will be safe and we will have health care. Congress and the senate are in the same boat they are just using the American people for whatever they can get out of them, no more no less. I have registered to vote. And I am casting my vote now. None of the above.
I forgot why I started to write this. It was about the war on drugs. The US spends 48 billion dollars a year on something that they cannot control. I was at a bar here in CA and I was in the smoking section and they were smoking pot there. I accept that since it is not against the law. And furthermore I accept it in general. Once it was against the law to have a drink as it was and to smoke a smoke it has begun its change. I know that no one likes change but the sooner that you accept it the sooner you can get on with your life."

The "none of the above" crap sounded good in the movie which made the phrase but in the "real world" this is the slogan of cowards and imbeciles. Yes, change happens whether we want it to or not but in this case outside of the misplaced lament over legality and labeling, we have a say in the best choice of two not so great options. It is what it is and to hide ones head in the sand is simply irresponsible and status quo for cowards. If one keeps doing the same things over and over expecting different results is the definition of insanity. Fact is in this individuals case the definition fits not only as evidenced in the above post but as is his life. Certifiably insane.

SPOTTING A SOCIOPATH!!

Romantic relationships can and should be wonderful with the correct person. A relationship with the wrong individual, however, can lead to years of heartache, emotional/social damage, physical damage, and even emotional, mental and physical abuse. And sometimes, that can even lead to death. So it is very important to really KNOW who you are communicating with in the first place BEFORE you destroy your life for them.. A damaging adult partner can damage us, damage our loved ones, and even damage the way we feel about love and romance in the future. They can turn what is supposed to be a loving, supporting, and understanding relationship into the “fatal attraction” often described in movies.

There is a very important statement to consider when you are trying to find out what someone is really like. And it is this:

 "The greatest enemy of that which is excellent is not that which is blatantly bad, but that which APPEARS to be good."

 If someone was openly insane and abusive with you, you would notice it right off the bat, and that would be the end of the relationship. But some(mentally ill Sociopaths) are much better than others at hiding from you who they REALLY ARE. They can appear to be very good, wonderful, and even perfect. In fact, many times these individuals have been called Sociopaths because they know just how to manipulate others so well. They can appear, at first, to be the most charming, caring, loving, fun individual who sweeps you off your feet with their charm and looks. Years ago men like this were called "smooth talking sales men and " Con-Artists." So, they can APPEAR to be good, but in reality they are not only bad, but VERY BAD.

So here are some red flags for you to be aware of so you can spot a sociopath before you continue a relationship that will ruin your life.

 A Sociopath is a type of person that creates much social, emotional and psychological damage. A sociopath has permanent personality characteristics that create this damage. These are characteristics that they accept simply as the way they are and not a problem or psychological difficulty. In one sense, they have always lived with this personality and behavior, often something they probably learned from their relatives/family. Psychologists usually treat the victims of  a sociopath who arrive at the office severely depressed with their self-confidence and self-esteem totally destroyed.

The following list is an attempt to outline the characteristics of a Sociopath and provide a manner in which women and men can identify potentially damaging relationships, before they are themselves severely damaged emotionally or even physically. If the person you are communicating with possesses even one of these features, there is risk in the relationship. More than three of these indicators and you are involved with a Sociopath in a very high risk relationship that will eventually create damage to you. When a high number of these features are present, it’s not a probability or possibility, you WILL be hurt and damaged if you continue with any form of a relationship.

1.      Commits to you very quickly: You will find that a Sociopath has very shallow and superficial emotions and connections with others. Within a very short period of time he or she says, “I Love You,” or wants to marry or commit to you. You may be caught up in the “it was meant to be” syndrome the sociopath portrays.  In less than a few weeks you’ll hear that you’re " the love of their life, they want to be with you forever, and they want to marry you." You’ll receive gifts, a variety of promises, and be showered with their attention and nice gestures. This is the “honeymoon phase” - where they catch you and convince you that they are the best thing that ever happened to you.

Stable people will require alot more information about someone before they make a commitment, and they will also be much more patient with the entire process. The very quick commitment on the part of the sociopath is also a sign of superficiality and shallow emotions, which is also the very reason that the controller can detach from you just as quickly. Believe it or not, a sociopath will be talking about moving in with you or getting married to you in less than four weeks, or very early in the relationship.

 2.     Temper: A sociopath has a scary temper or history of temper issue.. If the person which you are communicating has a history of or currently blows up and does dangerous things, like driving too fast because they’re mad, road rage, destroying/throwing things, getting into fights, or threatening others - that temper will soon be turned in your direction. In the beginning of the relationship, you will be exposed to “witnessed violence” - fights with others, threats toward others, angry outbursts at others, etc. You will also hear of violence in their life. You will see and witness this temper - throwing things, yelling, cursing, driving fast, hitting the walls, and kicking things. But it will at first be directed towards others, not you. 

The Sociopath will have a legal history- arrests for various issues such as assault, trespassing, DUI, etc.  They pride themselves in showing contempt for authority.

The Sociopath will even enlist your sympathy for what they are going through with others and expect you to take their side and support their anger.  They will maintain that they are always the victim.   

As time passes and the relationship progresses you become intimidated and you begin to fear their potential for violence. The Sociopath quickly assures you that they are angry at others or situations, not at you. And you want to believe that. You want to believe that they will never direct the hostility and violence at you, but they are clearly letting you know that they have that ability and capability - and that it might come your way. Statistics have shown that it will.

3.       It’s Always Your Fault: A Sociopath blames you for their anger as well as any other behavior that is incorrect. They will maintain that all the legal issues they underwent was none of their fault.  They were the victim.  When they cheat on you, yell at you, treat you badly, damage your property or embarrass you publicly, it’s somehow your fault. Anything that they do wrong, according to them YOU caused. So it is your fault that they had to act badly. A Sociopath tells you their anger and misbehavior would not have happened if you had not made some simple mistake, had loved them more, or had not questioned their behavior.

A Sociopath never, repeat “never,” takes personal responsibility for their behavior - it’s always the fault of someone else. They give you the impression that you had it (anger, yelling, assault) coming and deserved the anger, violence, pouting, or physical display of aggression.

4.     Entitlement: A Sociopath has a tremendous sense of entitlement, the attitude that they have a perfectly logical right to do whatever they desire. They are completely self-absorbed and arrogant. Their anger at others for perceived injustices will one day be used against you also. If you disobey their desires or demands, or violate one of their rules, or dare to disagree with them, they feel they are entitled to punish you in any manner they see fit. They treat you like a child and they are the parent.  The Sociopath will look for and do whatever it takes to not work to make a living.  They will look to the welfare system or the disability system.  Fact is that their psychological illness prevents them from being able to maintain employment so they feel entitled that the system owes them a living.

5.     Bad Stories: People often let you know about their personality by the stories they tell about themselves. It’s the old story about giving a person enough rope and they’ll hang themselves. The stories a person tells informs us of how they see themselves, what they think is interesting, and what they think will impress you. A Sociopath tells stories of violence, aggression, being insensitive to others, rejecting others, etc. Pay close attention to their arrest record as well for it summarizes the Sociopaths personality.  They may tell you about past relationships and, in every case, they assure you that they were treated horribly despite how wonderful they were to that person. They brag about their temper and outbursts, because they don’t see anything wrong with violence and actually take pride in the “I don’t take nothing from nobody” attitude. People define themselves with their stories, much like a culture is described by it’s folklore and legends. Listen to these stories - they tell you how you will eventually be treated and what’s coming your way.  Sociopaths live in a world of fiction.

6.     The Reputation: Mentally healthy individuals are consistent in their personality and their behavior. A Sociopath may have two distinct reputations - a group of individuals who will give you glowing reports and a group that will warn you that they are serious trouble. If you ask ten people about a new restaurant - five say it’s wonderful and five say it’s a hog pit - you clearly understand that there’s some risk involved in eating there.

A Sociopath may actually glorify  their reputation as a “butt kicker," “womanizer," “hot temper,” or “being crazy.” They may tell you stories where other’s have called them crazy or suggested that they receive professional help. They will boast that they are accountable to no one.  Pay attention to the reputation. Reputation is the public perception of an individual’s behavior. If the reputation has two sides, good and bad, your risk is high. You will be dealing with the bad side as the relationship progress. With severe behavior problems, a Sociopath will be found to have almost no friends, just acquaintances. Their relationship with their family is strained at best and generally has a divorce or string of divorces in their wake.  They have a history of sporadic relationship with their children if a parent.  Emotionally healthy and moral individuals will not tolerate friendships with sociopaths that treat others so badly.

7.      Discounted Feelings/Opinions: A sociopath is so self-involved and self-worshiping that the feelings and opinions of others are considered worthless. As the relationship continues and you begin to question what you are feeling or seeing in their behavior, you will be told that your feelings and opinions don’t make sense, they’re silly, and that you are emotionally disturbed to even think of such things. A Controller has no interest in your opinion or your feelings, but they will be disturbed and upset that you dare question their behavior. A sociopath is extremely hostile toward criticism and often reacts with anger or rage when their behavior is questioned.  Their primary purpose is to please themselves…Get what they need whether it is sex, money, the feeling of worth by destroying your previous relationship.  They are incapable of functioning in a normal loving relationship.

8.     It’s Never Enough: A Sociopath plan is to convince you that you are never quite good enough. You don’t say “I love you” enough, you don’t stand close enough, you don’t do enough for them after all their sacrifices, you cost them too much money, and your behavior always falls short of what is expected. In fact, even when you make the changes that they are demanding such as losing weight, cutting your hair or letting it grow long, dropping that friend or family member, etc. they will just find something else wrong with you. You could turn "yourself into a pretzel and swing from a chandelier" if they asked you to, and STILL it would not be good enough. This is another method of destroying your self-esteem and confidence. After months of this technique, they begin telling you how lucky you are to have them - somebody who tolerates someone so inadequate and worthless as you and that no one else would want you.

9.     Destroying Your Self-Esteem : A sociopath will begin to repeatedly put you down. They do this by correcting your smallest mistakes, making you feel like not doing things in front of them, or not telling them things that you have done, even the good things, because they will always find something wrong even with what you thought was good. So you begin to feel “on guard,” unintelligent, and depressed. They will tell you that you’re too fat, even when you are not, call you ugly or unattractive, make fun of your clothes or the way you talk or don’t talk correctly or how you look in general.  Soon they will begin to give you the impression that if you don't make some changes in these areas they are going to look elsewhere. This gradual chipping away at your confidence and self-esteem allows them to later treat you badly, as though you deserved it. In public, you will be “walking on eggshells” always fearing you are doing or saying something that will later create a temper outburst or verbal argument.

 10.  The Abuse Cycle: A sociopath cycles from mean to super nice and back again. The cycle starts when they are intentionally hurtful and mean. You may be verbally abused, cursed, and threatened over something minor. Suddenly, the next day they become sweet, and bring you candy and flowers. So you hang in there thinking maybe things are not so bad after all and maybe it is you who is exaggerating things. You hope that maybe this is the end of the cycle. But the sociopath knows exactly what they are doing. They have no intention of ending the cycle. They just don't want to lose power and control over you, so they become what they think you want in order to pacify you. And it works! But with each additional cycle your self-esteem and self-confidence is that much more eroded which is exactly what they want.

The sociopath is a master at lies and manipulation.  Evaluate your current situation and if you find that the person you are communicating with or are in a relationship falls into any of the above behavior categories, get away!  Nothing good will ever come from a continued relationship with them.  You deserve better in life.