I took a little break to do some research and begin a new case study and during the "relaxation" revisited the focus of the previous one (it becomes entertaining with some individuals). Those that have been following know that the man that has been followed most recent suffers from anti-social personality disorder complicated by poorly controlled type I bi-polar disorder and chronic substance abuse. He was raised in a vagabond lifestyle (military brat) and continues as much out of necessity as a choice. He suffers delusions which has led him to weave a web of lies to define his history and enable him to engage in predatory behaviors. As is characteristic with ASPD, he has a self-centered perception of established boundaries. He has been unable to maintain a relationship as evident in his failed marriage(some interesting communication recently occurred between him and his ex on Facebook. It seems he mistook her simple attempts to be civil in communication as a sign she sought to re-initiate a romantic relationship... EMBARRASSING), his lack of interaction with his two children over their life(oldest son experiencing issues with legal authorities due to illegal narcotics possession which is direct damage from the dysfunctional relationship and absence of his father). He has also been unable to maintain gainful employment. When attempting to manipulate a female target he pulls from a few fictitious employment backgrounds... Mainly that he is receiving company sponsored disability after being injured and that allows him to follow his passion of music(DJ).
Also his lack of respect for boundaries resulted in numerous arrests between 1995 and 2010 ranging from DWI to stalking, to assault and battery on a female. All in all a rather extensive arrest record.
His substance abuse, particularly alcoholism is evident in his physical appearance.. Classic moon face, bulging eyes and "barrel belly" indicating thyroid damage and cortisol imbalance from the alcohol. This also exacerbates his psychiatric issues that have resulted in numerous psychiatric hospital admissions(both voluntary and involuntary) over the course of his life.
He applies himself diligently to portray himself as intelligent and sensitive(ploy to cover his true existence). One(even untrained) only needs to read his posts on Facebook to see the degree of his mental deficiencies. The song lyrics and "poems" he posts that he states he is "working on" show the true depth of his denial and delusion. First and foremost, they are CRAP. Absolutely ridiculous.. Second, each refers to how he has been "done wrong by society" or how his life and its state
is not his fault. He has stated that "he doesn't look for trouble but it always seems to find him". He has an extreme disdain for authority even going as far as openly posting a tirade ending in "Fuck the police"(as generally said by a true criminal and not by a law abiding citizen). Most recent he posted a link to the Merl Haggard song- Branded Man. Imagine for a second him sitting back listening to this song feeling the emptiness in his gut, maybe even a tear(if ASPD had feelings of guilt which most including him do not), thinking how the song applied to his life. His ASPD and bipolar disorder interferes with his ability to recognize the actual difference between the subject in the song and himself. The song refers to a man who committed crimes, was put in prison, realized his misdeeds, atoned for his crimes, changed his life learning to respect boundaries. This man in the song was truly sorry and wanted to live life anew once released but people kept reminding and holding his crimes against him. It was not deserved and tragic. In DE's life, he never learned the lessons from his punishment after over stepping boundaries. He just got bitter and refuses to acknowledge his accountability. Worse yet he will do anything his selfish, self-centered heart desires.... Stealing, cheating, lying, abusing women, attempting to break up marriages and continues to not take care of his family. He lives off tax payers hard earned money. In reality he can in no way identify with the song. He is not apologetic for his life and the choices he made. He deserves the life he has and truely deserves to be branded. Visual branding say on the forehead as a Warning to avoid. It's sad that some are so delusional that regardless their actions, it's always society that is wrong. All one can do is call then on their bull crap and protect against their manipulative attempts to interfere. They live in a prison of their own design and deserve every miserable aspect of their life as a consequence of their attitude and actions.
Showing posts with label Antisocial. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Antisocial. Show all posts
Saturday, October 13, 2012
Thursday, July 12, 2012
NO BLAME....NO SHAME
Sociopaths have antisocial personality disorder, which is a chronic mental illness that affects your everyday thoughts, behaviors and relationships. Sociopaths may violate the law and the rights of others, while having little regard for right and wrong and lack of remorse for their senseless acts of crime. If, after reading this list of sociopathic personality disorder signs, you think you may be dealing with a sociopath, you should encourage your friend or loved one to seek professional medical help.
Persistent Lying or Deceit
If a person repeatedly lies, uses aliases or cons people for personal enjoyment and gain, while feeling no remorse when caught, you could be dealing with a sociopath. Sociopaths are very believable liars and rarely tell the truth. They aren’t concerned with doing the right thing, therefore making it easier for them to deceive people and get their way by lying.
Lack of Remorse, Guilt or Empathy
Sociopaths don’t experience much remorse or guilt for their behaviors, nor do they have empathy for others’ feelings. They may be engaged in violent acts, such as child abuse and abusive relationships, but not take responsibility for their actions or accept blame.
INCAPACITY FOR LOVE
Because sociopaths are making more enemies than friends, they don’t give or receive love easily. Family members, friends and coworkers may distance themselves from sociopaths because of their repeated lying, deceit and neglect that has damaged their relationship. Sociopaths may also have trouble making and keeping friends because they put themselves above others and aren’t concerned with their feelings.
IRRESPONSIBLE
Sociopaths are generally irresponsible and unreliable individuals, who seem to be oblivious to the harm or disappointment they cause others. They are quick to lie and blame others for acts they clearly committed, and do not accept blame or apologize when they are wrong.
IMPULSIVE BEHAVIOR
Promiscuity, infidelity, alcohol and drug abuse and gambling are just a few of the behaviors exhibited by sociopaths. Their lack of accountability and disregard for safety makes it easier for sociopaths to engage in dangerous or impulsive behavior that could be damaging to themselves or others.
JUVENILE DELIQUENCY
Juvenile delinquency, such as stealing, animal cruelty and aggression are some common attributes of a young sociopath. Sociopaths think they are above the law and rules that everyone must abide by, therefore, a life of rule breaking and illegal acts starts at a young age.
GRANDIOSE SENSE OF SELF/ARROGANCE
Sociopaths are convinced they are above everyone else and they are entitled to certain things no one else gets. Because of this mindset, sociopaths may be engaged in illegal activities and have reoccurring difficulties with the law. Sociopaths are delusional and feel as if they deserve a free pass in every situation.
MANIPULATIVE
In addition to pathological lying, sociopaths will manipulate strangers and people close to them in order to get what they want. They often use charm and wit to manipulate people, who could become a victim or enabler.
AGGRESSIVE OR VIOLENT BEHAVIOR
Sociopaths tend to be aggressive and violent in their day to day behavior. They may commit senseless crimes, abuse a loved one or neglect a child in an effort to release anger or show dominance.
AGITATED
Sociopaths are easily agitated by the smallest things and have no patience for boredom. Whether it’s being on time to work, following the law or not violating the rights of others, sociopaths have a difficult time doing as they are told.
Sociopaths generally have a legal history, insist they are never at fault, are either unemployed or have a resume of many jobs "that didn't work out", have little to no interaction with family, have few friends, and have experienced two or more hospitalizations for psychiatric care.
Persistent Lying or Deceit
If a person repeatedly lies, uses aliases or cons people for personal enjoyment and gain, while feeling no remorse when caught, you could be dealing with a sociopath. Sociopaths are very believable liars and rarely tell the truth. They aren’t concerned with doing the right thing, therefore making it easier for them to deceive people and get their way by lying.
Lack of Remorse, Guilt or Empathy
Sociopaths don’t experience much remorse or guilt for their behaviors, nor do they have empathy for others’ feelings. They may be engaged in violent acts, such as child abuse and abusive relationships, but not take responsibility for their actions or accept blame.
INCAPACITY FOR LOVE
Because sociopaths are making more enemies than friends, they don’t give or receive love easily. Family members, friends and coworkers may distance themselves from sociopaths because of their repeated lying, deceit and neglect that has damaged their relationship. Sociopaths may also have trouble making and keeping friends because they put themselves above others and aren’t concerned with their feelings.
IRRESPONSIBLE
Sociopaths are generally irresponsible and unreliable individuals, who seem to be oblivious to the harm or disappointment they cause others. They are quick to lie and blame others for acts they clearly committed, and do not accept blame or apologize when they are wrong.
IMPULSIVE BEHAVIOR
Promiscuity, infidelity, alcohol and drug abuse and gambling are just a few of the behaviors exhibited by sociopaths. Their lack of accountability and disregard for safety makes it easier for sociopaths to engage in dangerous or impulsive behavior that could be damaging to themselves or others.
JUVENILE DELIQUENCY
Juvenile delinquency, such as stealing, animal cruelty and aggression are some common attributes of a young sociopath. Sociopaths think they are above the law and rules that everyone must abide by, therefore, a life of rule breaking and illegal acts starts at a young age.
GRANDIOSE SENSE OF SELF/ARROGANCE
Sociopaths are convinced they are above everyone else and they are entitled to certain things no one else gets. Because of this mindset, sociopaths may be engaged in illegal activities and have reoccurring difficulties with the law. Sociopaths are delusional and feel as if they deserve a free pass in every situation.
MANIPULATIVE
In addition to pathological lying, sociopaths will manipulate strangers and people close to them in order to get what they want. They often use charm and wit to manipulate people, who could become a victim or enabler.
AGGRESSIVE OR VIOLENT BEHAVIOR
Sociopaths tend to be aggressive and violent in their day to day behavior. They may commit senseless crimes, abuse a loved one or neglect a child in an effort to release anger or show dominance.
AGITATED
Sociopaths are easily agitated by the smallest things and have no patience for boredom. Whether it’s being on time to work, following the law or not violating the rights of others, sociopaths have a difficult time doing as they are told.
Sociopaths generally have a legal history, insist they are never at fault, are either unemployed or have a resume of many jobs "that didn't work out", have little to no interaction with family, have few friends, and have experienced two or more hospitalizations for psychiatric care.
Tuesday, July 10, 2012
THE INTERNET AS A SOCIOPATHS PLAYGROUND
Do you know how to tell if a man is a sociopath? And do you know which women are the most likely targets of sociopaths?
Married women or just newly divorced are preferred targets for sociopaths. The age of technology we live in makes it difficult to discern initially due to just a computer screen in front of you. Over time however, all sociopaths are easily identified. Many marriages are put at risk due to their predatory practices.
* Essentially, a sociopath will glibly lie, charm and use others, without a moment's remorse over hurting anyone.
* They're often, but not always, more charismatic, charming than the average person.
* Sociopaths can feign every kind of emotion; yet they know only "feral" [wild, savage, deadly] pleasures.
* Sociopaths find rewards in the hunt.
* Their joys are in conquest and in winning.
* They know how to manipulate love and lust but can not feel either love or empathy.
* They have a Grandiose Sense of Self. They feel entitled to certain things as "their right."
* Shallow Emotions are all they have! When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. They are outraged by insignificant matters, yet remain unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person.
*Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises!
* Highly Manipulative and Conning. They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors as permissible.
*They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used.
*Their goal is to dominate and humiliate their victims.
Using the official diagnostic version from The DSM-IV-TR and The American Journal of Psychiatry (diagnostic manuals) and my own training and experience, here's some help in understanding the sociopath.
Antisocial personality disorder is characterized by a lack of regard for the moral or legal standards in the local culture. There is a marked inability to get along with others or abide by societal rules. Individuals with this disorder are sometimes called psychopaths or sociopaths.
Diagnostic Criteria (DSM-IV)
1. Since the age of fifteen there has been a disregard for and violation of the right's of others, those right's considered normal by the local culture, as indicated by at least three of the following:
A. Repeated acts that could lead to arrest.
B. Conning for pleasure or profit, repeated lying, or the use of aliases.
C. Failure to plan ahead or being impulsive.
D. Repeated assaults on others.
E. Reckless when it comes to their or others safety.
F. Poor work behavior or failure to honor financial obligations.
G. Rationalizing the pain they inflict on others.
2. At least eighteen years in age.
3. Evidence of a Conduct Disorder, with its onset before the age of fifteen.
4. Symptoms not due to another mental disorder.
These people are mentally ill and extremely dangerous! The following precautions will help to protect you from the destructive acts of which they are capable.
First, to recognize them, keep the following guidelines in mind.
(1) They are habitual liars. They seem incapable of either knowing or telling the truth about anything.
(2) They are egotistical to the point of narcissism. They really believe they are set apart from the rest of humanity by some special grace.
(3) They scapegoat; they are incapable of either having the insight or willingness to accept responsibility for anything they do. Whatever the problem, it is always someone else's fault. -there's not a hint of remorse in his behavior, attitude, or conversation. As a matter of interest, this particular person talks like he has been victimized.
by everyone in his life!
(4) They are remorselessly vindictive when thwarted or exposed.
(5) Genuine religious, moral, or other values play no part in their lives. They have no empathy for others and are capable of violence. Under older psychological terminology, they fall into the category of psychopath or sociopath, but unlike the typical psychopath, their behavior is masked by a superficial social facade.
If you have come into conflict with such a person or persons, do the following immediately!
(1) Notify your friends and relatives of what has happened.
Do not be vague. Name names, and specify dates and circumstances. Identify witnesses if possible and provide supporting documentation if any is available.
(2) Inform the police. The police will do nothing with this information except to keep it on file, since they are powerless to act until a crime has been committed. Unfortunately, that often is usually too late for the victim. Nevertheless, place the information in their hands.
Obviously, if you are assaulted or threatened before witnesses, you can get a restraining order, but those are palliative at best. If you'd like to learn more about the traits of sociopaths, written in simple layman language, I recommend The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout, PhD (a psychotherapist with a knack for writing great books).
Dr. Stout says that as many as 4% of the population are conscienceless sociopaths who have no empathy or affectionate feelings for humans or animals. [Other sources say one in 5 of our population are sociopaths.] As Dr. Stout (The Myth of Sanity) explains, a sociopath is defined as someone who displays at least three of fifteen distinguishing characteristics, such as
* deceitfulness, * impulsivity and * a lack of remorse.
With the above stated, it is best to avoid the development of any relationship online either with a stranger or old acquaintence especially if you are married. One example that comes to mind is a married woman finds an old acquantence on Facebook, they chat back and forth, he(being a sociopath as evidenced through meeting all the criteria) begins manipulating the communication. As time passes the woman's husband finds out about the emotional affair (hadnt progressed to face to face meeting so nothing physical occurred). The woman breaks off contact. She receives a strange and harrassing text message a couple of months later which prompted her to contact the sociopath during such time he of course denies sending the text(he is a known pathological liar) and then begins rambling on about how his son was "busted for selling drugs" and he didnt know what he was going to do. He then mentions that he(the man, not the son) had many, many past hospitalizations due to psychiatric issues over the course of his life (Dorothea Dix Hospital as well as others). This is something the woman didn't know in the beginning and she admittedly would have never communicated with him had she known the degree of his mental illness. This man had all the warning signs of a sociopath: grandiose sense of self, pathological lying, Lack of remorse, shame and guilt(long legal history to include assault on a female), shallow, need for stimulation(very promiscuous, lack of empathy(stated he never looked for trouble but trouble always seemed to find him and even believes that he was doing nothing wrong trying to break up a marriage), poor behavior controls(legal history), early behavior problems/Juvenile deliquency(his legal issues and alcohol abuse began in his teens), Irresponsible and unreliable(chose to allow his children to grow up without his presence), Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic lifestyle(claims income from disability received due to an injury-(more like disability due to his mental issues) and owns no home, goes from place to place of those that will allow him to stay although his relationship with his family is nonexistent.), and he has a criminal versatility-(he hides behind alias and tells ficticious life stories like being in movies- proved to be made up in no record of participation as an actor, extra or set employee of the movies he named). This is just an example of how a sociopath operates and if not detected, the damage they can cause to a relationship can be devastating. His life is built entirely on lies and manipulation and had the truth not been discovered and an end put it, lives would have been destroyed and even lost all because of the safe haven of the internet, text messages, etc. Its best to avoid or at minimum perform a criminal background check since no person, especially a sociopath will freely tell of their history and even if they do, the sociopath, will claim to be the victim. Many women find out way too late so be cautious and avoid becoming a true victim yourself.
Married women or just newly divorced are preferred targets for sociopaths. The age of technology we live in makes it difficult to discern initially due to just a computer screen in front of you. Over time however, all sociopaths are easily identified. Many marriages are put at risk due to their predatory practices.
* Essentially, a sociopath will glibly lie, charm and use others, without a moment's remorse over hurting anyone.
* They're often, but not always, more charismatic, charming than the average person.
* Sociopaths can feign every kind of emotion; yet they know only "feral" [wild, savage, deadly] pleasures.
* Sociopaths find rewards in the hunt.
* Their joys are in conquest and in winning.
* They know how to manipulate love and lust but can not feel either love or empathy.
* They have a Grandiose Sense of Self. They feel entitled to certain things as "their right."
* Shallow Emotions are all they have! When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. They are outraged by insignificant matters, yet remain unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person.
*Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises!
* Highly Manipulative and Conning. They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors as permissible.
*They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used.
*Their goal is to dominate and humiliate their victims.
Using the official diagnostic version from The DSM-IV-TR and The American Journal of Psychiatry (diagnostic manuals) and my own training and experience, here's some help in understanding the sociopath.
Antisocial personality disorder is characterized by a lack of regard for the moral or legal standards in the local culture. There is a marked inability to get along with others or abide by societal rules. Individuals with this disorder are sometimes called psychopaths or sociopaths.
Diagnostic Criteria (DSM-IV)
1. Since the age of fifteen there has been a disregard for and violation of the right's of others, those right's considered normal by the local culture, as indicated by at least three of the following:
A. Repeated acts that could lead to arrest.
B. Conning for pleasure or profit, repeated lying, or the use of aliases.
C. Failure to plan ahead or being impulsive.
D. Repeated assaults on others.
E. Reckless when it comes to their or others safety.
F. Poor work behavior or failure to honor financial obligations.
G. Rationalizing the pain they inflict on others.
2. At least eighteen years in age.
3. Evidence of a Conduct Disorder, with its onset before the age of fifteen.
4. Symptoms not due to another mental disorder.
These people are mentally ill and extremely dangerous! The following precautions will help to protect you from the destructive acts of which they are capable.
First, to recognize them, keep the following guidelines in mind.
(1) They are habitual liars. They seem incapable of either knowing or telling the truth about anything.
(2) They are egotistical to the point of narcissism. They really believe they are set apart from the rest of humanity by some special grace.
(3) They scapegoat; they are incapable of either having the insight or willingness to accept responsibility for anything they do. Whatever the problem, it is always someone else's fault. -there's not a hint of remorse in his behavior, attitude, or conversation. As a matter of interest, this particular person talks like he has been victimized.
by everyone in his life!
(4) They are remorselessly vindictive when thwarted or exposed.
(5) Genuine religious, moral, or other values play no part in their lives. They have no empathy for others and are capable of violence. Under older psychological terminology, they fall into the category of psychopath or sociopath, but unlike the typical psychopath, their behavior is masked by a superficial social facade.
If you have come into conflict with such a person or persons, do the following immediately!
(1) Notify your friends and relatives of what has happened.
Do not be vague. Name names, and specify dates and circumstances. Identify witnesses if possible and provide supporting documentation if any is available.
(2) Inform the police. The police will do nothing with this information except to keep it on file, since they are powerless to act until a crime has been committed. Unfortunately, that often is usually too late for the victim. Nevertheless, place the information in their hands.
Obviously, if you are assaulted or threatened before witnesses, you can get a restraining order, but those are palliative at best. If you'd like to learn more about the traits of sociopaths, written in simple layman language, I recommend The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout, PhD (a psychotherapist with a knack for writing great books).
Dr. Stout says that as many as 4% of the population are conscienceless sociopaths who have no empathy or affectionate feelings for humans or animals. [Other sources say one in 5 of our population are sociopaths.] As Dr. Stout (The Myth of Sanity) explains, a sociopath is defined as someone who displays at least three of fifteen distinguishing characteristics, such as
* deceitfulness, * impulsivity and * a lack of remorse.
With the above stated, it is best to avoid the development of any relationship online either with a stranger or old acquaintence especially if you are married. One example that comes to mind is a married woman finds an old acquantence on Facebook, they chat back and forth, he(being a sociopath as evidenced through meeting all the criteria) begins manipulating the communication. As time passes the woman's husband finds out about the emotional affair (hadnt progressed to face to face meeting so nothing physical occurred). The woman breaks off contact. She receives a strange and harrassing text message a couple of months later which prompted her to contact the sociopath during such time he of course denies sending the text(he is a known pathological liar) and then begins rambling on about how his son was "busted for selling drugs" and he didnt know what he was going to do. He then mentions that he(the man, not the son) had many, many past hospitalizations due to psychiatric issues over the course of his life (Dorothea Dix Hospital as well as others). This is something the woman didn't know in the beginning and she admittedly would have never communicated with him had she known the degree of his mental illness. This man had all the warning signs of a sociopath: grandiose sense of self, pathological lying, Lack of remorse, shame and guilt(long legal history to include assault on a female), shallow, need for stimulation(very promiscuous, lack of empathy(stated he never looked for trouble but trouble always seemed to find him and even believes that he was doing nothing wrong trying to break up a marriage), poor behavior controls(legal history), early behavior problems/Juvenile deliquency(his legal issues and alcohol abuse began in his teens), Irresponsible and unreliable(chose to allow his children to grow up without his presence), Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic lifestyle(claims income from disability received due to an injury-(more like disability due to his mental issues) and owns no home, goes from place to place of those that will allow him to stay although his relationship with his family is nonexistent.), and he has a criminal versatility-(he hides behind alias and tells ficticious life stories like being in movies- proved to be made up in no record of participation as an actor, extra or set employee of the movies he named). This is just an example of how a sociopath operates and if not detected, the damage they can cause to a relationship can be devastating. His life is built entirely on lies and manipulation and had the truth not been discovered and an end put it, lives would have been destroyed and even lost all because of the safe haven of the internet, text messages, etc. Its best to avoid or at minimum perform a criminal background check since no person, especially a sociopath will freely tell of their history and even if they do, the sociopath, will claim to be the victim. Many women find out way too late so be cautious and avoid becoming a true victim yourself.
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