THE CHALLENGE IS RESPONSIBILITY

The biggest challenge those wtih ASPD and Bipolar disorder have to overcome, after actually admitting they have a mental illness to begin with, is their tendency to simply explain away the illogical, immoral, unethical and painful actions they commit through assigning all blame on the chemical imbalance that is a part of who they are in life. 

Truth is when those with a  mental illness diagnosis such as these refuse to accept that they are held to accountability just as everyone else that takes a breath, they are easily confused and troubled by mild messages they receive from others. If a lack of knowing right from wrong at the time of a mental breakdown has been established, there is diminished capacity according to the law. What is lost in this logic is the damage done to the victims of angry manipulative outbursts or actions based on their desires during an episode.  During such times, jobs are lost, marriages destroyed, families are fractured and even dire crimes committed.  We do not live in a pristine world of black and white, or all or none thinking.   It is the faulty thinking as is characteristic in ASPD and Bipolar disorder to hold to, in the aftermath of harsh words and/or physical assault, the notion that a chemical imbalance is the culprit and is in by no means a fair release from culpability.
    There is much work in healing the breakdown of civility which goes on with those in stressful situations. Even though one may be delusional, their actions may result in pain to another. Aren’t they then responsible for their pain? Too often one is too proud to apologize, feeling it will only supply ammunition to an enemy and will weaken a claim to be the righteous one, the one wronged. This does not lead to understanding. It only increases the gulf already formed.
    Everything negative that happens to one in their life statistically can never be the fault of someone else.  If one breaks a set law, moral or ethical standard then the negative that occurs as a result is not the fault of the other.  It is the fault of the one who broke the law or standard.  So it is important to set the record straight through acknowledging the damage done and in most cases results in the beginning of a dialogue. “I’m sorry you were injured by my actions, or, what occurred between us is regrettable; let’s strive for a better understanding.”
The argument that a chemical imbalance is at the heart of a divide is an over-simplification and an easy way out. If you make a mess, then you have to clean it up. It is your responsibility.  Sometimes it’s just what is needed along with the resolution to learn and accept that a chemical imbalance does not define a person.... Its overcoming the imbalance and taking responsibility for the wrongs and making them right that defines one as a human being. 

Ten Ways to Take Responsibility

1. Be honest with yourself; admit your limitations.
2. Acknowledge your contribution to the misunderstanding.
3. Mentally exchange places with those you’ve harmed and
4. see the situation from their view.
5. See an outsider to mediate a dialogue.
6. Cool down before reacting.
7. Take time before trying to resolve an issue.
8. Recognize the futility of all or none thinking.
9. Seek understanding with goodwill.
10. Educate yourself on the difference between being reactive in the face of an altercation and looking at the aftermath for your opportunity to set things right.
11. Remain open.

I understand that society encourages one to take the path of least resistance.  It is easier to be a victim than to admit that one is at fault and brought the circumstances on themselves.  Its sad to see a person who could have a life as a productive functioning citizen harbor such bitterness and seek to cause so much hurt and pain to others simply because they refuse to take the steps necessary to focus not on their desires but rather on their integrity as a human being.  We are all taught the difference between right and wrong.  To do what is right is a conscious choice and is generally takes the most effort of the two because our desires would lead us to do the wrong thing based soley on our own self centeredness.  Its best to live by the saying, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."  If you were in a relationship or married and witnessed your spouse kissing another, how would/did you feel?  If your spouse left you for another because the other sought a relationship with your spouse knowing the marital status, how would you feel?  If someone stole something valuable to you, how would that make you feel?  The answer to all is angry, hurt and sad.  Then dont do those things regardless the circumstances.  Otherwise be prepared for the consequences that will follow you for a long time after.  That's just life- chemical imbalance or not. 

Branded Life

I took a little break to do some research and begin a new case study and during the "relaxation" revisited the focus of the previous one (it becomes entertaining with some individuals). Those that have been following know that the man that has been followed most recent suffers from anti-social personality disorder complicated by poorly controlled type I bi-polar disorder and chronic substance abuse. He was raised in a vagabond lifestyle (military brat) and continues as much out of necessity as a choice. He suffers delusions which has led him to weave a web of lies to define his history and enable him to engage in predatory behaviors. As is characteristic with ASPD, he has a self-centered perception of established boundaries. He has been unable to maintain a relationship as evident in his failed marriage(some interesting communication recently occurred between him and his ex on Facebook. It seems he mistook her simple attempts to be civil in communication as a sign she sought to re-initiate a romantic relationship... EMBARRASSING), his lack of interaction with his two children over their life(oldest son experiencing issues with legal authorities due to illegal narcotics possession which is direct damage from the dysfunctional relationship and absence of his father). He has also been unable to maintain gainful employment. When attempting to manipulate a female target he pulls from a few fictitious employment backgrounds... Mainly that he is receiving company sponsored disability after being injured and that allows him to follow his passion of music(DJ).
Also his lack of respect for boundaries resulted in numerous arrests between 1995 and 2010 ranging from DWI to stalking, to assault and battery on a female. All in all a rather extensive arrest record.
His substance abuse, particularly alcoholism is evident in his physical appearance.. Classic moon face, bulging eyes and "barrel belly" indicating thyroid damage and cortisol imbalance from the alcohol. This also exacerbates his psychiatric issues that have resulted in numerous psychiatric hospital admissions(both voluntary and involuntary) over the course of his life.
He applies himself diligently to portray himself as intelligent and sensitive(ploy to cover his true existence). One(even untrained) only needs to read his posts on Facebook to see the degree of his mental deficiencies. The song lyrics and "poems" he posts that he states he is "working on" show the true depth of his denial and delusion. First and foremost, they are CRAP. Absolutely ridiculous.. Second, each refers to how he has been "done wrong by society" or how his life and its state
is not his fault. He has stated that "he doesn't look for trouble but it always seems to find him". He has an extreme disdain for authority even going as far as openly posting a tirade ending in "Fuck the police"(as generally said by a true criminal and not by a law abiding citizen). Most recent he posted a link to the Merl Haggard song- Branded Man. Imagine for a second him sitting back listening to this song feeling the emptiness in his gut, maybe even a tear(if ASPD had feelings of guilt which most including him do not), thinking how the song applied to his life. His ASPD and bipolar disorder interferes with his ability to recognize the actual difference between the subject in the song and himself. The song refers to a man who committed crimes, was put in prison, realized his misdeeds, atoned for his crimes, changed his life learning to respect boundaries. This man in the song was truly sorry and wanted to live life anew once released but people kept reminding and holding his crimes against him. It was not deserved and tragic. In DE's life, he never learned the lessons from his punishment after over stepping boundaries. He just got bitter and refuses to acknowledge his accountability. Worse yet he will do anything his selfish, self-centered heart desires.... Stealing, cheating, lying, abusing women, attempting to break up marriages and continues to not take care of his family. He lives off tax payers hard earned money. In reality he can in no way identify with the song. He is not apologetic for his life and the choices he made. He deserves the life he has and truely deserves to be branded. Visual branding say on the forehead as a Warning to avoid. It's sad that some are so delusional that regardless their actions, it's always society that is wrong. All one can do is call then on their bull crap and protect against their manipulative attempts to interfere. They live in a prison of their own design and deserve every miserable aspect of their life as a consequence of their attitude and actions.

GOOD DEFINITION OF ANTI-SOCIAL PERSONALITY DISORDER (SOCIOPATH)

Antisocial personality disorder

Socioathic personality; Sociopathy; Personality disorder - antisocial

Antisocial personality disorder is a mental health condition in which a person has a long-term pattern of manipulating, exploiting, or violating the rights of others. This behavior is often criminal.

Causes, incidence, and risk factors

The causes of antisocial personality disorder are unknown. Genetic factors and child abuse are believed to contribute to the development of this condition. People with an antisocial or alcoholic parent are at increased risk. Far more men than women are affected. The condition is common in people who are in prison.

Symptoms

A person with antisocial personality disorder may:

• Be able to act witty and charming
• Be good at flattery and manipulating other people's emotions
• Break the law repeatedly
• Disregard the safety of self and others
• Have problems with substance abuse(most notably alcohol)
• Lie, steal, and fight often
• Not show guilt or remorse
• Often be angry or arrogant
• Moves frequently
• Poor or no attainable plans for the future 
• Frequent use of alias

Signs and tests

Like other personality disorders, antisocial personality disorder is diagnosed based on a psychological evaluation and the history and severity of symptoms.

Treatment

Antisocial personality disorder is one of the most difficult personality disorders to treat. People with this condition rarely seek treatment on their own. They may only start therapy when required to by a court.
The effectiveness of treatment for antisocial personality disorder is not known. Treatments that show the person the negative consequences of illegal behavior seem to hold the most promise.

Expectations (prognosis)

Symptoms tend to peak during the late teenage years and early 20s.

Complications

Complications can include imprisonment, drug abuse, violence, strained family relationships, inability to maintain employment, multiple hospitalizations and suicide.

 

NO BLAME....NO SHAME

Sociopaths have antisocial personality disorder, which is a chronic mental illness that affects your everyday thoughts, behaviors and relationships. Sociopaths may violate the law and the rights of others, while having little regard for right and wrong and lack of remorse for their senseless acts of crime. If, after reading this list of sociopathic personality disorder signs, you think you may be dealing with a sociopath, you should encourage your friend or loved one to seek professional medical help.

Persistent Lying or Deceit
If a person repeatedly lies, uses aliases or cons people for personal enjoyment and gain, while feeling no remorse when caught, you could be dealing with a sociopath. Sociopaths are very believable liars and rarely tell the truth. They aren’t concerned with doing the right thing, therefore making it easier for them to deceive people and get their way by lying.

Lack of Remorse, Guilt or Empathy
Sociopaths don’t experience much remorse or guilt for their behaviors, nor do they have empathy for others’ feelings. They may be engaged in violent acts, such as child abuse and abusive relationships, but not take responsibility for their actions or accept blame.

INCAPACITY FOR LOVE
Because sociopaths are making more enemies than friends, they don’t give or receive love easily. Family members, friends and coworkers may distance themselves from sociopaths because of their repeated lying, deceit and neglect that has damaged their relationship. Sociopaths may also have trouble making and keeping friends because they put themselves above others and aren’t concerned with their feelings.

IRRESPONSIBLE
Sociopaths are generally irresponsible and unreliable individuals, who seem to be oblivious to the harm or disappointment they cause others. They are quick to lie and blame others for acts they clearly committed, and do not accept blame or apologize when they are wrong.

IMPULSIVE BEHAVIOR
Promiscuity, infidelity, alcohol and drug abuse and gambling are just a few of the behaviors exhibited by sociopaths. Their lack of accountability and disregard for safety makes it easier for sociopaths to engage in dangerous or impulsive behavior that could be damaging to themselves or others.

JUVENILE DELIQUENCY
Juvenile delinquency, such as stealing, animal cruelty and aggression are some common attributes of a young sociopath. Sociopaths think they are above the law and rules that everyone must abide by, therefore, a life of rule breaking and illegal acts starts at a young age.

GRANDIOSE SENSE OF SELF/ARROGANCE
Sociopaths are convinced they are above everyone else and they are entitled to certain things no one else gets. Because of this mindset, sociopaths may be engaged in illegal activities and have reoccurring difficulties with the law. Sociopaths are delusional and feel as if they deserve a free pass in every situation.

MANIPULATIVE
In addition to pathological lying, sociopaths will manipulate strangers and people close to them in order to get what they want. They often use charm and wit to manipulate people, who could become a victim or enabler.

AGGRESSIVE OR VIOLENT BEHAVIOR
Sociopaths tend to be aggressive and violent in their day to day behavior. They may commit senseless crimes, abuse a loved one or neglect a child in an effort to release anger or show dominance.

AGITATED
Sociopaths are easily agitated by the smallest things and have no patience for boredom. Whether it’s being on time to work, following the law or not violating the rights of others, sociopaths have a difficult time doing as they are told.

Sociopaths generally have a legal history, insist they are never at fault, are either unemployed or have a resume of many jobs "that didn't work out", have little to no interaction with family, have few friends, and have experienced two or more hospitalizations for psychiatric care.