What is the one thing a sociopath does not want other people to know? The
truth. More specifically, sociopaths do not want the truth about them to be
known as they are insecure, malicious, and devious people. Beyond being
embarrassed by the truth of their behaviors and thoughts, they have a deathly
fear of being exposed and rejected. That’s in large part because they use lies,
manipulations, and distortions to control other people and get what they want.
If others were to know about their true nature, they realize that most would
want nothing to do with them. They would lose the support networks of malicious
minions they control and incite to abuse other people. Therefore sociopaths have
a strong motivation to attack, discredit, harass, and ruin anybody who presents
arguments and facts that might tend to raise questions and doubts about their
behaviors and their false statements.
Sociopaths Experts At Blaming Others, Greatly Fear Being Blamed
Nobody likes to be blamed, but a responsible person will accept blame for
something appropriate. Sociopaths don’t like to accept blame for anything, even
if it is well-earned. While part of this is likely from their typically
narcissistic “I’m better than you” and “rules don’t apply to me” attitudes,
there’s more to it than that. They may realize that blaming is how they control
others to harm the targets they viciously attack, often family members or former
love interests. They understand both the destructive and defensive powers of
blaming and make regular use of both.
Sociopaths may be especially cognizant of the risk that people whom they have
used to abuse others might even turn against them, especially those who might be
greatly angered by how they were manipulated into participating in destructive
and harmful activities against others. People like to blame others. While
sociopaths do it with extraordinary intensity and dishonesty, the people they
manipulate are likely to do it, too. After all, a sociopath was able to
manipulate them into unjustly attacking a former partner, a child’s other
parent, teacher, doctor, counselor, therapist, or some other party the sociopath
doesn’t like and that clearly demonstrates they are the sort of people who are
into blaming others. Who is to say they won’t turn and attack the sociopath when
they realize how they were used?
Blame-shifting is one of the most common means of “self-defense” used by abusers
and it can readily be used for offensive purposes, too. Many budding sociopaths
in the making learn to do blame-shifting with great skill from being abused
themselves and wanting to escape it. Blame-shifting, framing, and false accusations are mainstay abuse tactics for
sociopaths.
Emotional Abuse
Emotional abuse is often very subtle and pervasive. As such, it can escape
notice until it has done a lot of damage to its victims. Emotional abusers tend to be domineering, controlling, and refuse to consider
the opinions or feelings of others. Many would describe them as being incapable
of empathy. They seldom admit to making mistakes, rarely or never apologize for
anything, and may resort to blame-shifting when in a situation in which it is
very clear they did make a mistake and owe somebody else an apology.
Because of the sociopaths nature, they are skilled at the art of lying. Even to the point that at times they will fool themselves into believing the embellishments that they tell as truth. They will turn your attempts to get to the truth around and utilize "gas lighting" in attempt to make you doubt your doubt. He will proceed to attempt to place himself in a seat of superiority by trying to "educate" you on how to recognize a lie coming from a person. The sociopath is by nature, a liar, and most have been relying on this skill since teenage years to manipulate how others view them. In times of stress, the lies get larger and the attempt to "gas light" become more frequent. All because the sociopath knows that the web of manipulation they have worked to create is in danger of crashing down on them. Truth is however, no matter how insistant he is that he has "changed", he cannot change his nature just as a leopard cant change their spots. Psychiatric treatment can decrease the frequency of his negative actions but he will forever be a sociopath and liar.
