Demented Minds

What goes through the mind of a person who will knowingly engage and encourage a married individual to actively pursue an illicit relationship? I picture a person who has poor character, no integrity, a definite mental illness(probable mommy issues)if male and a coward that can't attract, build and maintain a stable relationship with someone who is available. If female engaging a married male I see the above with probable daddy issues leading to poor self esteem. I am not minimizing the accountability of the innocent spouse. Most instances find the cheating spouse feeling as though certain needs aren't being met such as affection and intimacy. Fact is however, if marital commitments are honored by the spouse and the other person then more couples would work out their issues resulting in fewer families destroyed through divorce. Truth is and statistics support this fact- marriages born out of illicit relationships end in divorce within 2 years. Why? The lack of character and integrity of the other person and lack of commitment of the betraying spouse will manifest in the new relationship leading to the same behaviors. It's not a wise choice to trust a person who will participate in a relationship with a married person. Once the thrill of the chase had subsided they will seek the thrill again. Couple that with the guilt and disappointment of throwing away their marriage and you have a recipe for disaster! We reap what we sow.